This is a good talk that helped me, in part, get out of a situation where my sense of self was intertwined with my job. Although it was rightfully so, the strong reaction I got at an “I told you so” moment made me realize how I needed my boss to see what I did and how it mattered. I felt that was one way of living, where I say: it *is* frustrating to deal with such limited, blinded, task-oriented boss that only cares about her part of the job and nothing of human involvement. Yes, she should “acknowledge” what I did. Yes, I need to help *her* do her job even though it is her job to help me, because the bastard cannot help me.
But a better way is to take my personal triumph and quietly and very confidently add to my never-ending river of self-validation that needs no other to bestow and bequeath that honor upon me. To feel so strong when the moment comes and point it out if I felt like it. To even in an opposite moment at a year-end evaluation where that may not be seen and may be even devalued, I would happily pack my bags and leave and be ok loosing that easy income and NOT take it as an indictment on me. And be confident I can do well anywhere I go because...
I am enough.